Doing it for Abuja

It's not a secret that Abuja-ites know how to rock a party, wear the best trends and have the most fun, all you have to be is breathing and not living under a rock. Yes, we've heard all the complaints, bout how there's no where to go, it's always the same crowd, yada, yada, yada, blahzay, blahzay.

Well here it is, a couple of never fail solutions:

You've got to follow the White Rabbit on her blog www.citycawlerabj.blogspot.com she knows everything bout everything, she's got the scoop on what's hot or not: She's like your own personal-down-to-earth-straight-talking-pretty-tour-guide. Her blog gets FLAIRpoints for being spot on. If she puts up, a post our advice is READ IT. She's got her finger on Abuja's pulse...

That leads us to the second thing

Delphino Entertainment's THE PULSE : What this is, is the organization that brings Abuja to it's knees everytime it throws a party! The Ceo/founder is a trendsetting icon. Step in the place and he'll be the one with the bow-tie partying hard! He gets FLAIRpoints for bringing the house down and proving Abuja ain't dead.

Talk about party-ing

Our Friday-favourite-dance-till-the cops-come-knocking place in Abuja is EDEN VIP we won't say much cause City Crawler said it all in her post "The Stylist, The Shy Billionaire and Don Jazzy Again ... "(told you she knows what's up). They get FLAIRpoints for giving us one of the DC's most rockin' Dj's DJ Zimo and makin da girls dem go wild. (you shoulda been there)!

In the past couple of weeks these people have almost single-handedly woken up the sleeping rocket that is the Abuja social scene!... Don't believe us? Check out the pictures tomorrow!!

Stay stylin'..

VCMF's REPLY

How does my comment inspire feminist vitriol? Shouldn't you be commending the minority of men who persist in chivalry and courtesy in the face of the barbarian hordes of bush, ungrateful, vain, ignorant, selfish women?There ARE good men out there and they're drowning in a sea of horrible Nigerian girls ‎​, and trying not to get jaded even as they continue to be played for fools every day. ‎​Still, they open doors with a smile, expecting nothing more than a smile in return and if she can be arsed, a 'thank you' Not wanting a date, or your number, or even to admire your beauty, but only to show you that there are still kind, decent men out there who know how to treat a woman. ‎​Shame on you!!! For taking the side of the barbarian hordes merely because you share their gender

Today a very close male friend was upset, said something about Nigerian women being very impolite, rude, the spawn of Satan or something along those lines. I being of women folk was quite perturbed. Began to wonder what my kin had done to incite such ill feelings and this was pretty much the discussion (give or take a couple graceful exaggerations):
*note VCMF=very close male friend

Me: Why so upset? Who is she? Gimme her name and home address lemme send my boys!
VCMF: Some random chic oh! I opened the door for her and she didn’t even say thank you.
Me: You don’t know her right?
VCMF: No!
Me: Did she ask you to get the door?
VCMF: No!
Me: Did you do it expecting some form of gratitude?
VCMF: NO!!!!!! It’s common courtesy for her to show appreciation!!!

VCMF sounded like he was about to have an aneurism so I said ok, and asked him to get on with work and not let the foolish woman (sorry unknown female) spoil his day. I said this to quell his annoyance. But this is what I was really thinking:
My guy, the chic didn’t ask you to get the door, she doesn’t know and therefore doesn’t owe you. If you felt like a gentleman and wanted to do the courteous thing it’s all on you. Don’t me mad ‘cause she didn’t crack a smile, mouth thank you, or get on the ground and bow to you: SHE DIDN’T ASK YOU TO OPEN THE DOOR FOR HER!!! She’s probably never had a guy open a can of coke let alone a door for her, how’s is she supposed to know that’s not something you spend the better part of your day doing? When a vehicle driver is trying to weave in front of me during traffic without indicating or making any hand gestures, it’s my prerogative to let him/her in, if I do and he/she doesn’t THANK me, I’m not going to go all ballistic on them (I do but for the sake of THIS argument let’s say I don’t). They didn’t hold a gun to my head, so why be upset if they’re unappreciative? They’re human and flawed! It’s in our design! Getting upset is to my detriment not theirs. Believe me, Common courtesy is very uncommon. Brush it off your shoulder: Thank you is just a word… not a get to heaven free card!